What I have personally been dealing with the last six weeks

These last six weeks seem like the Apocalypse of my life. I'm having the worst personal situation within my house. First and foremost, My husbands mother is very disrespectful to me because I am a different race than she is and I finally had to put her in her place because she thinks my husband is a joke. That caused a lot of riff within the family because now she is hurting my husband by not wanting to attend any of my children's birthday parties and she is telling my husbands family that I went off on her for no reason and that I control my husband and she doesn't want me in her home and that I am refusing to let her see her grand kids. DRAMA drama , drama. I have been trying so hard to keep myself in my studies and get my work done but everywhere I turn I have people from his side of the family calling the house and talking all types of junk to ma and about me. I finally decided to be the bigger person and let her know what this has got to stop and that we need to talk but instead she called my sister in law and told her that I was threatening her and that she doesn't want to talk to me and that I'm this , that and the other. I try to talk to her sisters who m I'm very close with and they tried to talk to her and she just turned it around and started saying that I was trying to get her family on my side. I swear when I met my husband I didn't know his family but we have a great relationship. Once his mother came into town it has been nothing but hell. I'm a pretty reasonable person. I have had my share of argument with his sister due to the fact that she took my sweetness for granted and thought she could talk to me any ole' way and I had to put her in hr place and now we have a great relationship but his mother is just a lost cause. She hates the way we raise our kids ( which frankly I do not care because they are my kids, not hers), she lies to get people to pity her. She gave her family the impression that I was stuck up and that I was a b***h and that I was just a snob but when they met me they realized that I was not even close to what she told them. I have come to the conclusion that she has a control issue. She doesn't like me because of my race but she really can't stand me because she no longer has control over her son anymore. She has always considered him to be the 10 year old boy that he use to be years ago and now that he is putting his foot down and expressing his own opinions on things, she doesn't like it and she blames me. I think she blames me for giving her son a family and making him grow up to become the man that he is. I also think that she is jealous that we are so happy. i firmy believe that misery loves company and because she went through a horrible seperation from her husband, I don't think she really wants her son to be happy and in a loving relationship because she didn't have it. It hurts me but it doesn't because I can't fix her or her past but I refuse to let her disrespect me infront of my children and if she cannot change, then I have no choice but to keep my children away from her because her only wish is to get me out of the picture but she needs to realize that I am his wife and I am here to stay. He is not going to exclude me from family events to satisfy her selfishness.

I try so hard to keep my cool with her and not say anything because the end result is that she will never confront me abouut her issues with me like I do with her because she feels if she says something I will jump down her throat. I only do that when I know it's a lie and I truly think she will never confront me because she knows what she did wrong and she knows that I will call her out on a lot of what she has done wrong. guilt is a powerful feeling and it's hard to face the person that you have done wrong when your guilt kicks in. I just really needed to get this off of my chest. Thank you.